Choice vs Control

All control and self-control involves a disconnection between controller and controlled, and consciousness is made up of connections which control can only disconnect. As we must be conscious of what we do to do the right thing, we can therefore never do the right thing through control: instead, we can only accept others as well as ourselves so that we may choose from the whole of our consciousness, for once we are whole, we all be conscious of what choices we should make. We cannot even control ourselves, because trying to do so will likewise separate our consciousness into parts that then come to take on a life on their own. If we accept ourselves we will become whole again, and once we are whole again, and only then, we can be whoever we want and do whatever we want, because then the whole of our being will work together to do so. Just as control decreases choice, choice decreases control ¹, so that once people are given choices, they get used to making choices very soon and no longer put up with control. The Internet gives people so many choices that it trains them to resist control.

Kathleen Vohs et al.: Making Choices Impairs Subsequent Self-Control