Co-Created Perception

Any perception (e.g. pain/pleasure) effected between people is created as much by the perceiver as the perceived, so both have responsibility for its balance. While others should try to balance their effect on our perception, we for our part can only try to their effect in ourselves. In private, we can adapt to the person we're with, but in public, there are too many to adapt to, and in either case they should choose who they are affected by.